You’re thinking about sex, but not really feeling it…

We’ve all been there. Sex is on your mind, but the spark just isn’t there. It’s like you should want it and go for it, but... you don’t.

Here’s the thing: It’s not that you don’t innately want sex. It’s that you don’t want the kind of sex you’ve been having.

The Desire Gap isn’t just about lack of desire—it’s often about unmet needs. A need to be seen, safe, and free to be ourselves –things that don’t always happen in sex.

When we’re not getting those needs met, sex can feel like a chore or something we just go through the motions of. It’s not surprising that desire starts to fade...

It’s not about trying harder to want sex—it’s about making the sex you have worth wanting. When you feel safe, loved, and understood, desire naturally grows.

So if you’re struggling with desire it’s time to ask:
What have I not been receiving that I quietly need?
What could shift in my relationship to make sex feel like something I truly want?

“The Desire Gap isn’t just about lack of desire; it’s often about unmet needs – the need to feel seen, safe, and free to be ourselves, things that don’t always happen in sex.”